"I am addicted to motherhood and my life is
unmanageable."
That's what 33-year-old Nadya Suleman would say if there
were a self help group called Mothers Anonymous.
Instead of praise, the super-ovulating mother of octuplets
and
Kaiser Permanente Medical Center in
Bellflower, CA where her births took place last month are eliciting hate
and incredulity for their audacious medical extravagance during a time of
national austerity.
Unmarried; unemployed, crashing with her parents and with
six children under eight not even by an ex husband, why should she seek more
children anyway, the public is asking? Through in vitro fertilization? Eight
times over?
Who were the fertility doctors--the same ones each time says
Suleman--who created this "miracle"?
What were they paid to enable her motherhood addiction--and
who paid them?
Who paid the hospital delivery staff of 46 and the infants'
continuing care? How about staff who handled--and continues to handle--press
presence?
Who wants their hospitals bill or tax dollars to help cover
Suleman's mental illness?
And who will pay for the disabilities, learning difficulties
and visual problems the babies will likely face from their extreme and
avoidable prematurity? All because Nadya loves babies?
Certainly not Suleman's parents who just discharged
$1 million in liabilities by filing bankruptcy.
Wait--a book deal!
Of course, even if
Suleman had just one ABM (all by myself) child--who needs a second parent when
grandparents or the state will support you?--she is doing the child no favor.
Not when 70 percent of
state prison inmates, 63 percent of suicides, 71 percent of drug abusers and 90
percent of the homeless and runaways come from single parent households.
Got guilt? Got a
spouse before you're ten-years-old? Got no childhood and no money?
That's how children
from single parent households describe their upbringing--when the parent is out
of earshot, of course.
Getting a life when
Mom or Dad never did; trying to repay their unilateral "sacrifices"
and martyred devotion sets children from single parent households up for
failure in life. Like having 13 siblings at home.
No wonder so many
children from single parent homes repeat the "favor"--hoping a child
will fill their unmet needs the way they didn't their own single parent's.
But of course Suleman
had eight children not one, making her the mother of fourteen.
There's a reason women
stopped having twelve and fourteen children a hundred years ago in this
country. And women want to stop having twelve and fourteen children
in poor countries.
Because it's
unmanageable. It's
unmanageable even when half the children aren't the same age!
What a irony that
Suleman is using latter day technology to bring women back to frontier days
when just surviving birth was as miraculous as surviving a snake bite. Quality
of life? What quality of life?
What a further irony
that childless couples who don't live with their parents and have jobs would
like just one of Suleman's brood.
As for loving
babies--animal hoarders with 33 stray dogs and 41 cats, all underfed and with
no medical care, also say they love their charges. And also love multiple
births.
Of course bringing her
eight babies home to live with their six siblings in her parents' three bedroom
house has a revered place in American folklore known as The Old Woman Who Lived
In A Shoe.
But who remembers
after "giving them some broth without any bread, She whipped them all
soundly, and put them to bed?"
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